LolaRuns has a confession to make. On Friday, November 6, 2009, she made a spur of the moment decision.
LolaRuns was on the phone with her good friend T who was busy writing her profile to join Match.com. During the course of the conversation, the topic of knowing when to call it quits came up.
So far, LolaRuns has been very impressed with the type of men that she has met through Match.com. A majority of her dates have been with accomplished, career driven, well read, well traveled professionals who are physically fit and look nothing close to their true ages.
If that is the case, what's wrong? There has even been a certain degree of chemistry between LolaRuns and Salesdude and LolaRuns and Employment Attorney. Is she motivated by either one to stop looking? No. Does LolaRuns feel like she wants a serious relationship with either candidate? No.
Would going out on a third date with Salesdude that very evening be a waste of time if LolaRuns knew that he wasn't "The One"? Would the realization that he could be "The One" come on date number 4 or 10 or 21 or never? When is it appropriate to throw in the towel?
LolaRuns' good friend Miss. T said that despite how great someone looks on paper, if the spark isn't there on the second date, then it's time to move on. But can we define spark? Salesdude and EA are attractive men - and LolaRuns would be lying if she said that chemistry didn't exist. But LolaRuns can not picture either man fitting into her life. Is that the point of a relationship - i.e. to make the person fit into one's life?
LolaRuns was very confused and the date with Salesdude was scheduled for 7pm - just a mere 2 hours away. Egged on by her friend Miss. T and lured by a great meal at Bourbon and a movie with the girls, LolaRuns decided to break things off with Salesdude.
How did she do it? In the most cowardly manner possible. LolaRuns is ashamed to admit that she did not have the courage to call Salesdude to explain herself. Instead, she opted to break off the "relationship" by text and slunk away to have dinner with her friends.
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
LolaRuns gets the creeps
Although Halloween has passed us by five days, LolaRuns describes some creepy occurrences that are a result of her Match endeavors.
Remember Salesdude - the fellow with whom LolaRuns is scheduled to go on a third date this Friday? LolaRuns generally has a positive feeling for Salesdude. He appears intelligent, intuitive, conservative, and of upstanding moral character. But LolaRuns had a tingly spine moment when LolaRuns and Salesdude were at the bar at Il Fornaio discussing the telecommunications industry and landline telephones. LolaRuns stated that she has no landline to which Salesdude responded, "You must not have a security system either then." Ummm...this is where LolaRuns said "I have a wireless security system and a neighbor who is a police officer. Plus I live in a neighborhood where everyone watches my house and my coming and going since I am the lone single girl!" To which Salesdude said "Landline security systems aren't good anyway because you can cut the phone lines and still get in the house."
Alright folks. Creepy.
The next one takes the prize for spine chilling in true Halloween fashion.
LolaRuns, in keeping with her promise to be proactive, ran across a profile that seemed interesting and sent an email. The person is 6'4 with brown hair, green eyes, a graduate degree, and an interesting array of photos that indicated a well traveled person. The gentleman also stated in his profile that he was learning Chinese.
In striking up conversation, LolaRuns' email basically said "It sounds like you may be more Chinese than me. :) You can speak it to me and I will pretend that I understand."
Him: "Hi LolaRuns - No - no my Chinese is terrible. Honestly I think I might feel uncomfortable with someone so goodlooking. Do you have a lot of men who try to talk to you randomly?"
Me: ":) It's Match. Of course I have a lot of men who try to talk to me randomly! :) Joking aside - in real life too - guys are predators no? How long have you been studying Mandarin and why that language?"
Him: "Hmmm. Well we are all like that. We have to try to talk to beautiful women. They won't talk to us. If I saw you though I might not talk. U r in the model category. Really cute."
Me: "Great - thanks. So how long have you been studying Mandarin and why did you choose it?"
Him: "We should just have a coffee or a beer and chat. Online process is so slow. But it's ok. For u I'll be patient."
Not that scary right? Before responding to his last email, LolaRuns decided on the spur of the moment, to re-read the fellow's profile to make sure that he really is someone that she wants to waste time meeting with. Much to LolaRuns' surprise, the following excerpt had been updated to the fellow's profile page:
"I know they are coming for me and my family. They are looking for us and we are hiding. I can hear them even now as they search."
??? That was enough for LolaRuns to stop all communications with the guy. LolaRuns has since blocked him from contacting her. The next day, out of curiosity, she went back to his profile page to see if the strange excerpt was there. He was smart enough to remove it and LolaRuns was lucky enough to have seen and copied it down when she did.
You never know what you get online. There are people with mental illnesses. In this situation, whether it was a joke or mental illness, LolaRuns is not interested in finding out.
Remember Salesdude - the fellow with whom LolaRuns is scheduled to go on a third date this Friday? LolaRuns generally has a positive feeling for Salesdude. He appears intelligent, intuitive, conservative, and of upstanding moral character. But LolaRuns had a tingly spine moment when LolaRuns and Salesdude were at the bar at Il Fornaio discussing the telecommunications industry and landline telephones. LolaRuns stated that she has no landline to which Salesdude responded, "You must not have a security system either then." Ummm...this is where LolaRuns said "I have a wireless security system and a neighbor who is a police officer. Plus I live in a neighborhood where everyone watches my house and my coming and going since I am the lone single girl!" To which Salesdude said "Landline security systems aren't good anyway because you can cut the phone lines and still get in the house."
Alright folks. Creepy.
The next one takes the prize for spine chilling in true Halloween fashion.
LolaRuns, in keeping with her promise to be proactive, ran across a profile that seemed interesting and sent an email. The person is 6'4 with brown hair, green eyes, a graduate degree, and an interesting array of photos that indicated a well traveled person. The gentleman also stated in his profile that he was learning Chinese.
In striking up conversation, LolaRuns' email basically said "It sounds like you may be more Chinese than me. :) You can speak it to me and I will pretend that I understand."
Him: "Hi LolaRuns - No - no my Chinese is terrible. Honestly I think I might feel uncomfortable with someone so goodlooking. Do you have a lot of men who try to talk to you randomly?"
Me: ":) It's Match. Of course I have a lot of men who try to talk to me randomly! :) Joking aside - in real life too - guys are predators no? How long have you been studying Mandarin and why that language?"
Him: "Hmmm. Well we are all like that. We have to try to talk to beautiful women. They won't talk to us. If I saw you though I might not talk. U r in the model category. Really cute."
Me: "Great - thanks. So how long have you been studying Mandarin and why did you choose it?"
Him: "We should just have a coffee or a beer and chat. Online process is so slow. But it's ok. For u I'll be patient."
Not that scary right? Before responding to his last email, LolaRuns decided on the spur of the moment, to re-read the fellow's profile to make sure that he really is someone that she wants to waste time meeting with. Much to LolaRuns' surprise, the following excerpt had been updated to the fellow's profile page:
"I know they are coming for me and my family. They are looking for us and we are hiding. I can hear them even now as they search."
??? That was enough for LolaRuns to stop all communications with the guy. LolaRuns has since blocked him from contacting her. The next day, out of curiosity, she went back to his profile page to see if the strange excerpt was there. He was smart enough to remove it and LolaRuns was lucky enough to have seen and copied it down when she did.
You never know what you get online. There are people with mental illnesses. In this situation, whether it was a joke or mental illness, LolaRuns is not interested in finding out.
LolaRuns goes to Il Fornaio with Salesdude
By Friday, October 30, 2009, LolaRuns was wiped out. She had already been on two consecutive dinner dates with two different men on Wednesday and Thursday evening.
But LolaRuns was committed to go on yet another dinner date on Friday evening at 7pm at Il Fornaio in Reston Town Center with Salesdude.
From work, LolaRuns changed out of her suit into a bright blue clingy dress with ruched sides and black heels. Over the dress, she wore her cream coloured rain coat and diamond earrings.
LolaRuns arrived at 7pm at Il Fornaio and proceeded to the bar where she scanned the people for a sign of Salesdude. With him nowhere in sight, LolaRuns took the lone empty seat at the crowded bar and occupied herself with facebook updates from friends on her Palm Pre. At 5 minutes after 7pm, she turned her head to the right first and then to the left to search for Salesdude and as she did so, LolaRuns and Salesdude made eye contact and smiled delightedly. Hopping down from the bar stool, LolaRuns and Salesdude hugged briefly.
"Would you like to come down this end of the bar where there is more room?" he asked. I nodded dutifully while Salesdude took my coat and we made our way to the end of the bar. We sat down and over two glasses of champagne each, got lost in conversation for an hour before Salesdude realized that the maitre'd had overlooked us and our table. At 8pm, Salesdude checked with the maitre'd who apologized profusely and led us to a table where we sat down to a delicious meal of canneloni. From dinner, we went to Passion Fish for drinks. What was happening as we went from bar to restaurant to bar? Really good conversation on both sides. Salesdude asked great questions about family, friends, career, aspirations, the past and I reciprocated. He even went so far as to ask about how I would select my person for a serious relationship. In LolaRuns style, I opened up about my Matrix. Salesdude was a bit shocked at first but was intrigued.
At the end of the date, Salesdude walked me to my car and even though it was just Friday, October 30, 2009, he was smart enough to ask me out for Friday, November 6, 2009. LolaRuns was smart enough to say yes.
But LolaRuns was committed to go on yet another dinner date on Friday evening at 7pm at Il Fornaio in Reston Town Center with Salesdude.
From work, LolaRuns changed out of her suit into a bright blue clingy dress with ruched sides and black heels. Over the dress, she wore her cream coloured rain coat and diamond earrings.
LolaRuns arrived at 7pm at Il Fornaio and proceeded to the bar where she scanned the people for a sign of Salesdude. With him nowhere in sight, LolaRuns took the lone empty seat at the crowded bar and occupied herself with facebook updates from friends on her Palm Pre. At 5 minutes after 7pm, she turned her head to the right first and then to the left to search for Salesdude and as she did so, LolaRuns and Salesdude made eye contact and smiled delightedly. Hopping down from the bar stool, LolaRuns and Salesdude hugged briefly.
"Would you like to come down this end of the bar where there is more room?" he asked. I nodded dutifully while Salesdude took my coat and we made our way to the end of the bar. We sat down and over two glasses of champagne each, got lost in conversation for an hour before Salesdude realized that the maitre'd had overlooked us and our table. At 8pm, Salesdude checked with the maitre'd who apologized profusely and led us to a table where we sat down to a delicious meal of canneloni. From dinner, we went to Passion Fish for drinks. What was happening as we went from bar to restaurant to bar? Really good conversation on both sides. Salesdude asked great questions about family, friends, career, aspirations, the past and I reciprocated. He even went so far as to ask about how I would select my person for a serious relationship. In LolaRuns style, I opened up about my Matrix. Salesdude was a bit shocked at first but was intrigued.
At the end of the date, Salesdude walked me to my car and even though it was just Friday, October 30, 2009, he was smart enough to ask me out for Friday, November 6, 2009. LolaRuns was smart enough to say yes.
LolaRuns goes to Iota Cafe with Mechanical Engineer
LolaRuns is a glutton for punishment.
On Thursday, October 29, 2009, one night after dinner with Executive Recruiter, LolaRuns met with Mechanical Engineer for dinner at Iota Cafe in Clarendon.
Who is Mechanical Engineer? He is a 37 year old that LolaRuns was exchanging Match instant messages with for a period of a week and a half. LolaRuns had mixed expectations for Mechancial Engineer because she saw that his spelling was atrocious through instant messaging. The other cause for concern was that Mechanical Engineer did not appear to be very well read. Case in point? He has no knowledge of the great literary classics and could not speak to Vladimir Nabokov and Lolita. But LolaRuns reasoned that mechanical engineers are by trade more quantitative and perhaps this one in particular - put less emphasis on literature and more on math and science.
Regardless, LolaRuns courageously battled on in her fight to find a soulmate. She dutifully met with Mechanical Engineer despite her reservations.
After work, LolaRuns changed into jeans and a white shirt and grey wide strapped heels. Why? Because this is her lucky first date outfit - that's why! Through experimentation, LolaRuns discovered that men love women who look hot in jeans. Based on simple observation, LolaRuns concluded that she does not disappoint in this seemingly simple outfit.
LolaRuns was the first to arrive at Iota Cafe. The band was warming up in the room adjacent to the restaurant and LolaRuns chose a seat against the wall looking toward the doorway entrance. She received a text from Mechanical Engineer that he was searching for parking and would be there in a few minutes.
At 5 minutes past 8pm, in walked Mechanical Engineer. LolaRuns stood up to greet him and saw that he was about 6' tall with short hair shaved close to his head and nice blue eyes set against a very boyish face. Mechanical Engineer was in jeans and a simple grey Guess tee shirt with a biker jacket that he promptly removed. He looked great - just like his pictures - but as soon as conversation began, LolaRuns was disappointed.
To put it bluntly, Mechanical Engineer was very soft spoken. In fact, his voice reminded LolaRuns of a girl - not high pitched or anything - but girlish. LolaRuns was immediately turned off. But she soldiered on with dinner and conversation.
Mechanical Engineer had many positives. He is scuba certified and just finished running his first marathon - the Marine Corps Marathon - the previous Sunday. Mechanical Engineer went to community college where he received his associate's degree and than went on to the University of Maryland where he received his mechanical engineering degree. This is where it gets shaky. LolaRuns probed Mechanical Engineer but he did not seem knowledgeable about his field of expertise. However, that could be attributable to Mechanical Engineer's inability to articulate and describe his field of work. Regardless, Mechanical Engineer also shared that he worked in IT for the State Department and was able to travel extensively as a result. He scuba dived in Phuket and because of his employ with the State Department, Mechanical Engineer got to see a bit of the world.
Some things became very obvious to LolaRuns during the course of dinner with Mechanical Engineer. Although a very nice person, LolaRuns saw that Mechanical Engineer was really immature and not very sophisticated. She felt like she was having dinner with an 18 year old boy who fumbled his way through conversation and was not worldly or knowledgeable.
LolaRuns did not learn anything about Mechanical Engineer's family nor did he learn about LolaRun's family or history. LolaRuns did learn that Mechanical Engineer likes to dabble in real estate. He bought three townhomes and sold two in 2006. Mechanical Engineer currently lives with roomates in the last townhome located in Woodbridge and was looking for a new job. It was obvious that Mechanical Engineer has good financial discipline and lives within his means. Mechanical Engineer also spends his time between jobs in a very productive manner. Mechanical Enginner studied for and took the exam for the Professional Engineer certification the previous week. He trained for and ran the Marine Corps Marathon. LolaRuns was able to conclude that Mechanical Engineer, despite his inability to articulate his profession and world travels, is a productive and smart person with a good heart.
After a little more than an hour, dinner came to an end. Mechanical Engineer walked LolaRuns to her car where we parted ways with a hug.
On Thursday, October 29, 2009, one night after dinner with Executive Recruiter, LolaRuns met with Mechanical Engineer for dinner at Iota Cafe in Clarendon.
Who is Mechanical Engineer? He is a 37 year old that LolaRuns was exchanging Match instant messages with for a period of a week and a half. LolaRuns had mixed expectations for Mechancial Engineer because she saw that his spelling was atrocious through instant messaging. The other cause for concern was that Mechanical Engineer did not appear to be very well read. Case in point? He has no knowledge of the great literary classics and could not speak to Vladimir Nabokov and Lolita. But LolaRuns reasoned that mechanical engineers are by trade more quantitative and perhaps this one in particular - put less emphasis on literature and more on math and science.
Regardless, LolaRuns courageously battled on in her fight to find a soulmate. She dutifully met with Mechanical Engineer despite her reservations.
After work, LolaRuns changed into jeans and a white shirt and grey wide strapped heels. Why? Because this is her lucky first date outfit - that's why! Through experimentation, LolaRuns discovered that men love women who look hot in jeans. Based on simple observation, LolaRuns concluded that she does not disappoint in this seemingly simple outfit.
LolaRuns was the first to arrive at Iota Cafe. The band was warming up in the room adjacent to the restaurant and LolaRuns chose a seat against the wall looking toward the doorway entrance. She received a text from Mechanical Engineer that he was searching for parking and would be there in a few minutes.
At 5 minutes past 8pm, in walked Mechanical Engineer. LolaRuns stood up to greet him and saw that he was about 6' tall with short hair shaved close to his head and nice blue eyes set against a very boyish face. Mechanical Engineer was in jeans and a simple grey Guess tee shirt with a biker jacket that he promptly removed. He looked great - just like his pictures - but as soon as conversation began, LolaRuns was disappointed.
To put it bluntly, Mechanical Engineer was very soft spoken. In fact, his voice reminded LolaRuns of a girl - not high pitched or anything - but girlish. LolaRuns was immediately turned off. But she soldiered on with dinner and conversation.
Mechanical Engineer had many positives. He is scuba certified and just finished running his first marathon - the Marine Corps Marathon - the previous Sunday. Mechanical Engineer went to community college where he received his associate's degree and than went on to the University of Maryland where he received his mechanical engineering degree. This is where it gets shaky. LolaRuns probed Mechanical Engineer but he did not seem knowledgeable about his field of expertise. However, that could be attributable to Mechanical Engineer's inability to articulate and describe his field of work. Regardless, Mechanical Engineer also shared that he worked in IT for the State Department and was able to travel extensively as a result. He scuba dived in Phuket and because of his employ with the State Department, Mechanical Engineer got to see a bit of the world.
Some things became very obvious to LolaRuns during the course of dinner with Mechanical Engineer. Although a very nice person, LolaRuns saw that Mechanical Engineer was really immature and not very sophisticated. She felt like she was having dinner with an 18 year old boy who fumbled his way through conversation and was not worldly or knowledgeable.
LolaRuns did not learn anything about Mechanical Engineer's family nor did he learn about LolaRun's family or history. LolaRuns did learn that Mechanical Engineer likes to dabble in real estate. He bought three townhomes and sold two in 2006. Mechanical Engineer currently lives with roomates in the last townhome located in Woodbridge and was looking for a new job. It was obvious that Mechanical Engineer has good financial discipline and lives within his means. Mechanical Engineer also spends his time between jobs in a very productive manner. Mechanical Enginner studied for and took the exam for the Professional Engineer certification the previous week. He trained for and ran the Marine Corps Marathon. LolaRuns was able to conclude that Mechanical Engineer, despite his inability to articulate his profession and world travels, is a productive and smart person with a good heart.
After a little more than an hour, dinner came to an end. Mechanical Engineer walked LolaRuns to her car where we parted ways with a hug.
LolaRuns experiences rejection
All of this dating may lead the average reader to believe that LolaRuns calls the shots in the Match universe.
Au contraire! When LolaRuns signed up for Match, she knew that she was signing up for a bit of rejection. And Match has not disappointed in the rejection arena.
Please recall that according to the LolaRuns Match rulebook, LolaRuns vowed to initiate winks and emails on her own for profiles that piqued her interest. LolaRuns kept her word and sends emails and winks to profiles that she finds particularly intriguing on an ongoing basis.
The most passive form of rejection comes in the form of unanswered emails and winks that are ignored. LolaRuns is used to passive rejection and doesn't take it to heart.
But this past week, LolaRuns experienced another form of rejection. She received two emails from two different Match men who communicated their rejection! It was analagous to purring hello and smiling coyly at a stranger that one finds attractive - only to have that stranger approach and communicate why the smile and any hopes of getting to know the stranger will not be reciprocated!
These two well meaning men penned two emails that essentially said "thanks, but no thanks".
Gentleman #1 - DC_Runner2009 - wrote:
"Hi LolaRuns - Thanks for the email. I'm probably looking for someone closer to my area... I know Chantilly isn't exactly another state but it's not exactly close. Good luck: DC_Runner2009"
And where does DC_Runner2009 live? He lives in the far away county of Arlington, Virginia folks! That's right. :) But in all honesty, when I reread his profile, I could tell that we were two different people. It was obvious that he is well read and smart, but he loves to go camping. LolaRuns' idea of camping is checking into the Ritz Carlton for an overnight stay and scheduling a massage.
Gentleman #2 - Rchances1 - wrote:
"Hi LolaRuns - yes ... living overseas is fun ... I really enjoy it. Madrid was great ... but next it's on to Kinshasa, Congo. Well ... I finished the MCM ... not as fast as I wanted ... but I was just hoping to finish. You seem very interesting ... and I love your photos. I recently met someone offline and we're going to see where it goes. Good luck on Match ... but I don't think you'll need it. Chance"
Please keep in mind dear reader that the "I recently met someone and we're going to see where it goes" reason is an option in the drop down rejection box on the Match email template. I know this because I have used it many times when I am forced to respond to people who continue to send me emails that I have ignored.
Because LolaRuns is a glutton for punishment, she also checked to see the last time that Chance signed into Match - and his profile was active within the last 24 hours. Alas, much to LolaRuns' dismay, Chance has not met anyone. If that were the case, Match would be the last thing Chance would be checking.
To make matters worse, Rchances1's profile wins the blue ribbon for most well rounded male as judged by yours truly. He is fluent in French and Spanish, travels the world in an executive management position at a company with world wide operations, scuba dives, runs, hikes, mountain bikes, skis, climbs, reads the Economist, and is currently tackling classic literature in Spanish. Can we say brainy, physically fit, and drop dead gorgeous at 6'1 and 40 years of age with dark brown hair and dark brown eyes? Sigh - but LolaRuns can't play in his playground. Chance kicked her out, locked the gate, and took his ball home.
So is it better to send an email to reject someone outright or is it better to ignore the email in the hopes that they get the picture?
LolaRuns has done both but admits that she tends to send the email with the drop down box rejection reason only if the suitor sends multiple emails that have never been answered by moi.
It has been approximately 3 weeks since LolaRuns joined Match and during that time, she has learned a great deal. In the hierarchy of class and love, there will always be men who pursue LolaRuns whom LolaRuns will never acknowledge. There will be men who pursue LolaRuns whom LolaRuns will reciprocate with flirty attention. And then there are those men that LolaRuns will coyly tempt, only to have her flirtations denied. That dear reader, is the cycle of love and life.
Au contraire! When LolaRuns signed up for Match, she knew that she was signing up for a bit of rejection. And Match has not disappointed in the rejection arena.
Please recall that according to the LolaRuns Match rulebook, LolaRuns vowed to initiate winks and emails on her own for profiles that piqued her interest. LolaRuns kept her word and sends emails and winks to profiles that she finds particularly intriguing on an ongoing basis.
The most passive form of rejection comes in the form of unanswered emails and winks that are ignored. LolaRuns is used to passive rejection and doesn't take it to heart.
But this past week, LolaRuns experienced another form of rejection. She received two emails from two different Match men who communicated their rejection! It was analagous to purring hello and smiling coyly at a stranger that one finds attractive - only to have that stranger approach and communicate why the smile and any hopes of getting to know the stranger will not be reciprocated!
These two well meaning men penned two emails that essentially said "thanks, but no thanks".
Gentleman #1 - DC_Runner2009 - wrote:
"Hi LolaRuns - Thanks for the email. I'm probably looking for someone closer to my area... I know Chantilly isn't exactly another state but it's not exactly close. Good luck: DC_Runner2009"
And where does DC_Runner2009 live? He lives in the far away county of Arlington, Virginia folks! That's right. :) But in all honesty, when I reread his profile, I could tell that we were two different people. It was obvious that he is well read and smart, but he loves to go camping. LolaRuns' idea of camping is checking into the Ritz Carlton for an overnight stay and scheduling a massage.
Gentleman #2 - Rchances1 - wrote:
"Hi LolaRuns - yes ... living overseas is fun ... I really enjoy it. Madrid was great ... but next it's on to Kinshasa, Congo. Well ... I finished the MCM ... not as fast as I wanted ... but I was just hoping to finish. You seem very interesting ... and I love your photos. I recently met someone offline and we're going to see where it goes. Good luck on Match ... but I don't think you'll need it. Chance"
Please keep in mind dear reader that the "I recently met someone and we're going to see where it goes" reason is an option in the drop down rejection box on the Match email template. I know this because I have used it many times when I am forced to respond to people who continue to send me emails that I have ignored.
Because LolaRuns is a glutton for punishment, she also checked to see the last time that Chance signed into Match - and his profile was active within the last 24 hours. Alas, much to LolaRuns' dismay, Chance has not met anyone. If that were the case, Match would be the last thing Chance would be checking.
To make matters worse, Rchances1's profile wins the blue ribbon for most well rounded male as judged by yours truly. He is fluent in French and Spanish, travels the world in an executive management position at a company with world wide operations, scuba dives, runs, hikes, mountain bikes, skis, climbs, reads the Economist, and is currently tackling classic literature in Spanish. Can we say brainy, physically fit, and drop dead gorgeous at 6'1 and 40 years of age with dark brown hair and dark brown eyes? Sigh - but LolaRuns can't play in his playground. Chance kicked her out, locked the gate, and took his ball home.
So is it better to send an email to reject someone outright or is it better to ignore the email in the hopes that they get the picture?
LolaRuns has done both but admits that she tends to send the email with the drop down box rejection reason only if the suitor sends multiple emails that have never been answered by moi.
It has been approximately 3 weeks since LolaRuns joined Match and during that time, she has learned a great deal. In the hierarchy of class and love, there will always be men who pursue LolaRuns whom LolaRuns will never acknowledge. There will be men who pursue LolaRuns whom LolaRuns will reciprocate with flirty attention. And then there are those men that LolaRuns will coyly tempt, only to have her flirtations denied. That dear reader, is the cycle of love and life.
LolaRuns goes to Lebanese Taverna with Executive Recruiter
On Wednesday, October 28, 2009, LolaRuns made an exception - by going out on a date on a school night!
Lolaruns met with someone who is an Executive Recruiter by profession. Actually, he is an entrepreneur because he now owns and runs his own executive search firm. The executive search firm employs eight people who focus on different aspects of the recruitment process in the non profit sector. Executive Recruiter intends to redirect his search firm so that it also focuses on the commercial sector and eventually branch out internationally.
How did LolaRuns come across Executive Recruiter? Actually, Executive Recruiter found LolaRuns and sent her an email in the Match universe. The email was a straight forward simple request to discuss 3 Cups of Tea over tea or coffee! LolaRuns reviewed Executive Recruiter's profile and was generally impressed despite the fact that at 50 years of age, he was over her age range of 35 to 45. Aside from running his own company, Executive Recruiter is a spin instructor at the Sport and Health in Tenley Town. His pictures show a physically fit man who could easily pass for 40. LolaRuns also liked the fact that Executive Recruiter plays drums in a jazz band and travels extensively. During the course of our email exchanges, Executive Recruiter even demonstrated a written proficiency in French.
It was obvious that Executive Recruiter deserved a first date!
A little more than a week after the first email exchange, LolaRuns showed up at the Tyson's Galleria Starbucks on the dot at 7:30pm. As I approached the seating area, a blonde blue eyed man, 6'3 tall, wearing blue jeans, a blue button down shirt tucked in with a houndstooth blazer and nice brown loafers stood up and walked towards me. We shook hands and smiled at each other. Up close, Executive Recruiter looked as young as he did in his pictures. There was not a wrinkle to be found and he has a lean but muscular and youthful build. Spinning definitely pays off!
I grabbed a short cup of coffee with half and half and we got down to the business of chatting. Not quite fifteen minutes into our discussion, Executive Recruiter asked if LolaRuns would like to continue over dinner at Lebanese Taverna. That's one of my favourite restaurants I exclaimed!
Over a delicious meal, Executive Recruiter and I bonded over stories of our childhood, family histories, travels, and careers. Late into the dinner, we even meandered over to the book discussion before touching lightly on the Vietnam War and its similarities to current US activities in the Middle East.
Dinner did not end until very late. It was close to 10:30pm when Executive Recruiter walked LoalRuns to her car and suggestively asked if she would trick or treat at his house in her spider girl costume.
I already have plans for Halloween she replied with a smile. :)
Lolaruns met with someone who is an Executive Recruiter by profession. Actually, he is an entrepreneur because he now owns and runs his own executive search firm. The executive search firm employs eight people who focus on different aspects of the recruitment process in the non profit sector. Executive Recruiter intends to redirect his search firm so that it also focuses on the commercial sector and eventually branch out internationally.
How did LolaRuns come across Executive Recruiter? Actually, Executive Recruiter found LolaRuns and sent her an email in the Match universe. The email was a straight forward simple request to discuss 3 Cups of Tea over tea or coffee! LolaRuns reviewed Executive Recruiter's profile and was generally impressed despite the fact that at 50 years of age, he was over her age range of 35 to 45. Aside from running his own company, Executive Recruiter is a spin instructor at the Sport and Health in Tenley Town. His pictures show a physically fit man who could easily pass for 40. LolaRuns also liked the fact that Executive Recruiter plays drums in a jazz band and travels extensively. During the course of our email exchanges, Executive Recruiter even demonstrated a written proficiency in French.
It was obvious that Executive Recruiter deserved a first date!
A little more than a week after the first email exchange, LolaRuns showed up at the Tyson's Galleria Starbucks on the dot at 7:30pm. As I approached the seating area, a blonde blue eyed man, 6'3 tall, wearing blue jeans, a blue button down shirt tucked in with a houndstooth blazer and nice brown loafers stood up and walked towards me. We shook hands and smiled at each other. Up close, Executive Recruiter looked as young as he did in his pictures. There was not a wrinkle to be found and he has a lean but muscular and youthful build. Spinning definitely pays off!
I grabbed a short cup of coffee with half and half and we got down to the business of chatting. Not quite fifteen minutes into our discussion, Executive Recruiter asked if LolaRuns would like to continue over dinner at Lebanese Taverna. That's one of my favourite restaurants I exclaimed!
Over a delicious meal, Executive Recruiter and I bonded over stories of our childhood, family histories, travels, and careers. Late into the dinner, we even meandered over to the book discussion before touching lightly on the Vietnam War and its similarities to current US activities in the Middle East.
Dinner did not end until very late. It was close to 10:30pm when Executive Recruiter walked LoalRuns to her car and suggestively asked if she would trick or treat at his house in her spider girl costume.
I already have plans for Halloween she replied with a smile. :)
LolaRuns gets Starbucks with Salesdude
LolaRuns woke up on Sunday morning at 9am tired and groggy. She had less than five hours of sleep since the date with EA did not end until 3am and LolaRuns did not make it home until 3:45am!
In less than six hours, LolaRuns was scheduled to meet with Salesdude. So I dragged myself out of bed, ran my errands, and went to the gym.
At approximately 3pm while approaching the Starbucks on Market Street in Reston Town Center, LolaRuns received a text. It was Salesdude. His text read: "Hi LolaRuns, I'm here at the Starbucks in the Reston Town Center". At that point, LolaRuns was standing at the entrance to the coffee shop when a very fit attractive blond man, approximately 6'2, in casual jeans, a blue striped button down shirt untucked with a grey tee shirt peeking out, and casual black shoes immediately jumped up from a chair positioned next to the doorway.
With one hand, Salesdude removed his sunglasses while he excitedly shook my hand with the other. Salesdude opened the door as I walked inside and he immediately asked what I would like to drink. "A short coffee" I replied as he directed me to a window seat in the corner. Just as I removed my raincoat and scarf and got settled, Salesdude came over with my coffee. I took it appreciatively and followed Salesdude to the center of the store to get half and half. When I turned around, Salesdude was waiting for his coffee order so LolaRuns took the opportunity to make small talk with Salesdude. Salesdude smiled and politely but firmly responded "Why don't you have a seat and I will be right over?"
Whoa. LolaRuns never gets ordered around and found it slightly exhilarating.
A few minutes later, Salesdude took a seat next to LolaRuns at the table adjacent to the window and we embarked on a two hour discussion. Up close, Salesdude has bright blue eyes and a generous smile. LolaRuns couldn't help but notice that for 41 years of age, Salesdude has significant wrinkles under and around his eyes. Frankly, it looked like Salesdude hadn't slept in more than a week even though it was apparent that he was alert and awake. Overall though, LolaRuns found Salesdude to be true to his profile pictures and generally attractive. Ding Ding Match.com! You are 4 for 4!
Salesdude asked about LolaRun's weekend and when she responded that she saw a Philip Trager photography exhibit, LolaRuns was delighted to find that Salesdude asked question after question. She excitedly shared the subjects of the photographs, the different developing techniques, and the background of the photographer to a very eager listener who lapped up the information readily. When Salesdude asked for an example when LolaRuns tried to explain the architectural pictures, he intently looked out the window as she pointed to the building across the street and attempted to describe the angle of the building that Trager would have photographed against the sky. Salesdude asked if LolaRuns kept current with photography but she clarified that aside from a photography course in high school, everything that she shared with him was learned from the exhibit that she walked on Saturday. LolaRuns was impressed when Salesdude asked for the name of the exhibit and the museum and expressed a desire to see it for himself.
From there, conversation flowed to our respective families and backgrounds. Salesdude has one other sister who is 18 months younger. She is happily married to an Italian national in California and they are trying to conceive. Salesdude's father spent a life in sales. Salesdude mother has a college degree and one day, while at a bar, she met the man who would be her husband. Coincidentally enough, one month prior to their fateful introduction, Salesdude's father met Salesdude's mother's uncle who informed Salesdude's father that he had a niece that he wanted Salesdude's father to meet. When Salesdude's mother and father formally started to date, Salesdude's father met Salesdude's mother's uncle again and the circle was complete. Salesdude's parents have been happily married for over 40 years.
Salesdude grew up in Pittsburgh and went to Grove City College where he received undergraduate degrees in Economics and Political Science. Salesdude's parents characterized him as shy and were surprised when he chose to follow his father's footsteps with a career in sales. Salesdude works for Oracle and has been with the company for one year moving recently from commercial to federal sales.
LolaRuns will be honest. She doesn't like sales and never liked the salesy type. But I was pleasantly surprised with Salesdude. Salesdude is inquisitive, likes to learn, and appears genuine. Salesdude keeps up with various industries and demonstrated sound knowledge about finance and telecommunications. Salesdude took an interest in LolaRuns' job and asked intelligent questions. Salesdude happily dived into LolaRuns' family history and enjoyed the narrative of how LolaRuns' parents met.
The two hours went by quickly and LolaRuns enjoyed the conversation as much as she enjoyed the Starbucks coffee. Hmmm - yum! Even though LolaRuns never expected much from the initial meeting with Salesdude, she happily accepted when Salesdude invited LolaRuns to dinner for Friday night at Il Fornaio at 7pm.
In less than six hours, LolaRuns was scheduled to meet with Salesdude. So I dragged myself out of bed, ran my errands, and went to the gym.
At approximately 3pm while approaching the Starbucks on Market Street in Reston Town Center, LolaRuns received a text. It was Salesdude. His text read: "Hi LolaRuns, I'm here at the Starbucks in the Reston Town Center". At that point, LolaRuns was standing at the entrance to the coffee shop when a very fit attractive blond man, approximately 6'2, in casual jeans, a blue striped button down shirt untucked with a grey tee shirt peeking out, and casual black shoes immediately jumped up from a chair positioned next to the doorway.
With one hand, Salesdude removed his sunglasses while he excitedly shook my hand with the other. Salesdude opened the door as I walked inside and he immediately asked what I would like to drink. "A short coffee" I replied as he directed me to a window seat in the corner. Just as I removed my raincoat and scarf and got settled, Salesdude came over with my coffee. I took it appreciatively and followed Salesdude to the center of the store to get half and half. When I turned around, Salesdude was waiting for his coffee order so LolaRuns took the opportunity to make small talk with Salesdude. Salesdude smiled and politely but firmly responded "Why don't you have a seat and I will be right over?"
Whoa. LolaRuns never gets ordered around and found it slightly exhilarating.
A few minutes later, Salesdude took a seat next to LolaRuns at the table adjacent to the window and we embarked on a two hour discussion. Up close, Salesdude has bright blue eyes and a generous smile. LolaRuns couldn't help but notice that for 41 years of age, Salesdude has significant wrinkles under and around his eyes. Frankly, it looked like Salesdude hadn't slept in more than a week even though it was apparent that he was alert and awake. Overall though, LolaRuns found Salesdude to be true to his profile pictures and generally attractive. Ding Ding Match.com! You are 4 for 4!
Salesdude asked about LolaRun's weekend and when she responded that she saw a Philip Trager photography exhibit, LolaRuns was delighted to find that Salesdude asked question after question. She excitedly shared the subjects of the photographs, the different developing techniques, and the background of the photographer to a very eager listener who lapped up the information readily. When Salesdude asked for an example when LolaRuns tried to explain the architectural pictures, he intently looked out the window as she pointed to the building across the street and attempted to describe the angle of the building that Trager would have photographed against the sky. Salesdude asked if LolaRuns kept current with photography but she clarified that aside from a photography course in high school, everything that she shared with him was learned from the exhibit that she walked on Saturday. LolaRuns was impressed when Salesdude asked for the name of the exhibit and the museum and expressed a desire to see it for himself.
From there, conversation flowed to our respective families and backgrounds. Salesdude has one other sister who is 18 months younger. She is happily married to an Italian national in California and they are trying to conceive. Salesdude's father spent a life in sales. Salesdude mother has a college degree and one day, while at a bar, she met the man who would be her husband. Coincidentally enough, one month prior to their fateful introduction, Salesdude's father met Salesdude's mother's uncle who informed Salesdude's father that he had a niece that he wanted Salesdude's father to meet. When Salesdude's mother and father formally started to date, Salesdude's father met Salesdude's mother's uncle again and the circle was complete. Salesdude's parents have been happily married for over 40 years.
Salesdude grew up in Pittsburgh and went to Grove City College where he received undergraduate degrees in Economics and Political Science. Salesdude's parents characterized him as shy and were surprised when he chose to follow his father's footsteps with a career in sales. Salesdude works for Oracle and has been with the company for one year moving recently from commercial to federal sales.
LolaRuns will be honest. She doesn't like sales and never liked the salesy type. But I was pleasantly surprised with Salesdude. Salesdude is inquisitive, likes to learn, and appears genuine. Salesdude keeps up with various industries and demonstrated sound knowledge about finance and telecommunications. Salesdude took an interest in LolaRuns' job and asked intelligent questions. Salesdude happily dived into LolaRuns' family history and enjoyed the narrative of how LolaRuns' parents met.
The two hours went by quickly and LolaRuns enjoyed the conversation as much as she enjoyed the Starbucks coffee. Hmmm - yum! Even though LolaRuns never expected much from the initial meeting with Salesdude, she happily accepted when Salesdude invited LolaRuns to dinner for Friday night at Il Fornaio at 7pm.
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