LolaRuns ponders when to cut bait

LolaRuns has a confession to make. On Friday, November 6, 2009, she made a spur of the moment decision.

LolaRuns was on the phone with her good friend T who was busy writing her profile to join Match.com. During the course of the conversation, the topic of knowing when to call it quits came up.

So far, LolaRuns has been very impressed with the type of men that she has met through Match.com. A majority of her dates have been with accomplished, career driven, well read, well traveled professionals who are physically fit and look nothing close to their true ages.

If that is the case, what's wrong? There has even been a certain degree of chemistry between LolaRuns and Salesdude and LolaRuns and Employment Attorney. Is she motivated by either one to stop looking? No. Does LolaRuns feel like she wants a serious relationship with either candidate? No.

Would going out on a third date with Salesdude that very evening be a waste of time if LolaRuns knew that he wasn't "The One"? Would the realization that he could be "The One" come on date number 4 or 10 or 21 or never? When is it appropriate to throw in the towel?

LolaRuns' good friend Miss. T said that despite how great someone looks on paper, if the spark isn't there on the second date, then it's time to move on. But can we define spark? Salesdude and EA are attractive men - and LolaRuns would be lying if she said that chemistry didn't exist. But LolaRuns can not picture either man fitting into her life. Is that the point of a relationship - i.e. to make the person fit into one's life?

LolaRuns was very confused and the date with Salesdude was scheduled for 7pm - just a mere 2 hours away. Egged on by her friend Miss. T and lured by a great meal at Bourbon and a movie with the girls, LolaRuns decided to break things off with Salesdude.

How did she do it? In the most cowardly manner possible. LolaRuns is ashamed to admit that she did not have the courage to call Salesdude to explain herself. Instead, she opted to break off the "relationship" by text and slunk away to have dinner with her friends.